Question:
Is anal play safe? I’ve always wanted to try it with my girlfriend but my girlfriend thinks painful and unhygienic! I heard good as well as bad reviews about anal play. I don’t want to force her but I really want to try it. How should I convince her that anal sex is worth a try?
Willy:
Yes, anal play is safe but it can be painful if you don’t follow some very simple guidelines to anal sex. Number one rule is to ask your partner’s consent. Find out if your partner is really interested in it. Don’t assume that she is all for it without asking her first. Explain to her that you wouldn’t hurt her and tell her why you want to do it. Disregarding this rule will create an unhappy or uncomfortable situation.
Second, prepare lots and lots of lubes. The rectum is not self-lubricating like the vagina and penis, so artificial lube is very necessary. The anal tissues and membranes are very delicate and sensitive. Friction can cause bruising and irritation that is usually the primary cause of most of the pain and discomfort. The best type of lube for anal penetration is water-based lube.
Lastly, never insert anything that has been in your girlfriend’s rectum in to your girlfriend’s vagina or mouth (or your mouth). I am obviously talking about your fingers, penis, a toy or anything. Bacteria and fecal matter can cause very uncomfortable and painful infections in the vagina.
You’re about to go on board to an amazing journey with your girlfriend. The more knowledge and understanding you have ahead of time will make it worth in the end. Again, the first thing you should do is to ask her consent. A lot of people just go for it with anal play and that ignorance usually results in a bad experience. You can also check our ANAL SEX SAFETY TIPS for more information.